Growing old together is not a problem, but starting out feeling very mismatched is. I’m 50 yrs old almost 51 and have absolutely no problem attracting men. At one time I had no less than 15 male friends between ages of in my phone. Some I met personally…some on dating site…others school mates. All very interested in having a serious relationship.
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I feel your pain Jeffery and can relate 100% to everything you wrote. Am 54 and I tend to date women in their late 30s to early 50s. I am a professional but I am not willing to be a sugar daddy to get sex or companionship. It’s not necessary for an attractive professional male who has it together. Although it seems that most age groups want to be wined and dined especially if they think you are able to do so. I try to avoid women looking for freebies or are entitled.
Of course, it is personal but when he did that he was only thinking of himself. It had nothing to do with how pretty you are or how valuable you are but he went his base urges. Now his loss is another man’s gain or you can say him cheating was actually a blessing to you.
OK, I am a woman in her 50s and I am on the dating sites and going to multiple meetups, I have been asked out my men my age but man! They are either overweight, have really bad teeth, or physical limitations like a bad knee. The men I want to pursue are handsome, fit, and financially secure. I am financially independent and I have been taken advantage of by a man my age so I don’t want that to happen again. I know the handsome, fit, and financially sound men are looking for younger women so I have to compete with them for these types of men. The only way to do this is to be also be fit, well put together, get a little botox even, be confident, educated, happy, and fun!
Anyway, I guess I am happy if most men in my age group decide to date down in age. It leaves more women available to me. I’m literally laughing as I read this. I am 51 and in the best shape of my life. My body is as toned as J-Lo’s, as I regularly dance, run and do Pilates.
But you need to know how important it is to meet her parents. It’s definitely important that as an older man you have financial stability. However, don’t assume this is your most important drawcard. She go now doesn’t want to be pressured to join you on your life path. She’d prefer you to forge a new path together, side by side. But the kind of woman you want to date likely doesn’t want you to be this way.
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I feel invisible in the states and being a white is no longer respected in the US. I know I am not entitled to anything, or deserve love….but it sure be nice to have a woman a woman in my arms again. I’m in my early 50s, fit, no ED (thank goodness!) married for almost 28 years, and still in love with my wife.
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Assume it’s over if they aren’t talking or interacting with you. If they aren’t responding to texts, ignoring you online, or refusing to have a conversation about what happened, it’s a sign that they’re serious about not getting back together. If they were still interested in potentially getting back together, they’d at least be open to interacting with you. While it definitely isn’t fun to hear that your ex is dating someone new, rest assured that it’s unlikely your ex and their new partner are going to stay together forever. Act like you aren’t actively trying to “win them over” and mean it.
Sometimes forever isn’t as long as we think. I’m told on dates “a great guy” I’ve adopted grandkids , work hard no debt , 56 young at heart , tall dark hair , no debts . Many woman after menopause want sex too as they don’t have to worry about getting pregnant and those of us that take care of ourselves are better in bed than most men our age.
I am not always looking for something better when I find a good man. It shocks me to hear about the inconsiderate and selfish acts of some women today. Seems that these women want to be recognized for a prosperous career, like men, but they don’t care who they hurt in the process.
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